Overcoming mid-life Anxiety

"Worry gives a small thing a big shadow" Swedish Proverb

If instigating renewal to our physical and mental health issues was as simple as extracting a painful tooth, healing would be relieving. A physical symptom such as chest pains can alert us of the possibility of a cardiovascular illness (stroke, heart attack), but can also be the trigger alerting you of anxiety. Your anxiety in return can be the trigger of depression! Try to assemble these pieces of puzzle together without frustration or confusion! It takes a good dose of patience to journey into healing without relapses or without giving-up entirely.

In our last encounter we mentioned the importance of working towards achieving a positive self-esteem. This is the basis for instigating renewal into any of our mid-life concerns.

DEFINITION OF ANXIETY

Anxiety is not a sign of weakness…Celebrities such as Donny Osmond, Winston Churchill and Abraham Lincoln suffered of this illness. People of all walks of life can be afflicted. You will understand this better when I present the different anxiety illnesses and their causes. But for now, let's try to answer the following question: What is anxiety?

Everybody experiments anxiety symptoms at one time or another and that is normal. Pain is a body signal alerting you of a health concern - requesting the need for medical attention. Anxiety plays a similar role warning us about a danger: be extra cautious! E.G.: You feel a little anxious as you prepare to cross a freeway where cars circulate in both directions. It’s also normal to feel anxious when you must speak in front of a crowd or must go for a job interview.

Anxiety becomes a concern when you intentionally avoid any contact with the source of fear. E.G.: You avoid grocery shopping because you feel anxious surrounded by to many people. You avoid any outer contacts with strangers, you refuse to leave the house; you depend on others entirely for your needs. .

In this case, anxiety is not a warning of cautiousness or a situation of nervousness. Anxiety as now become a state of painful or fearful uneasiness of mind over an impending or anticipated event; it is a very intensive sense of concern mixed with doubt,fear sometimes reaching a fealing of terror."

This state of emotion is intense, frequent, often appropriated to given situations, things or locations; it could go as far as to interfere into your personal life, restricting your social relationships, and your work performance. Real Life by Dr Phil McGraw)

Let’s now take a pause and try to assess your level of anxiety; answer the following questions - I quoted them from Psychologist Dr. Joni Johnston’s book entitled: "Controlling Anxiety – Keep your fears and worries at bay."

Emotional

Cognitive

Behavioural

These symptoms are the most common to anxiety. However, as mentioned in this introduction, any of these symptoms can be physical-related illnesses. So how do I know if these symptoms are anxiety disorder related? Visit your family physician and open up about your feelings and concerns; request for a general examination. Remember also, that medication, illicit drugs have anxiety-like symptoms. Some people can be very sensitive to caffeine or chocolate.

I conclude with this definition quoted from the book: Controlling Anxiety –keep your fears and Worries at bay.

‘’An anxiety disorder is an illness that produces an intense, often unrealistic and excessive state of apprehension and fear. This may or may not occur during or in anticipation of a specific situation, and may be accompanied by a rise in blood pressure, increased heart rate, rapid breathing, nausea, and other signs of agitation or discomfort.’’

In our next encounter I will identify different anxiety disorders, their specific characteristics and their impact on your personality. You might recognize some of them already: