Mid-Life Interpersonal Relationships Concerns
One of the big interpersonal relationship concern reaching
my mid-life crisis was the difficulty bonding with my sisters.
A generation gap separates me from both of them. As the eldest
of the family my role towards them while living at home was
the one of a second guardian. As they were still quite young
when I left home to go to College, to University and in the
work field, it was not until now, before we could have a
sister type of relationship in which we could confide openly,
feeling more like friendship. Whether we were parent raising
children - now reaching College, single-mother or single, we
have now achieved enough of life's wisdom to mutually
understand each other more.
Relationships, whether they are family-related, matrimonial,
friendship or with co-workers are of much significance to
each and everyone of us and the way we mutually greed each
other and communicate with each other impacts its quality.
We know to well how hurting a broken relationship can be.
It goes as far as to leave us empty and vulnerable not to
mention bitter and lonely.
As a dicta-typist for the Matrimonial Tribunal of our
Diocese, I hear quite a few testimonies about hurt
relationship. So many hurt relationships have reached
the stage of divorce.
In our first encounters I introduced you to the related
psychological mid-life concerns, how it impact your life.
Healing our relationships begins with the healing of our own
personal concerns, other wise it impacts in being a major
issue in our interpersonal relationship. For example: Men
and women react differently to stress. Their response is
also different. The same situation applies in cases of
of low self-esteem related illnesses such as anxiety,
The way of thinking of both men and women is also different. The
more we understand this and we learn to cope with the differences, the better the communication among couples.
We know how much
is a big issue in relationships. As you will see in our next
encounter, it's not a natural process.
Instigating renewal in our relationships is hard work. We must be up and ready for it; particularly in situations such as infidelity. Deciding whether we want to pursue the relationship or not is a challenge. We will approach this in a later encounter.
As we learn the basis on which to be building good relationships please have this thought in mind - particularly in difficult concerns:
During the darkest hours of a challenge, I may feel as if it will take a miracle to bring light back into my life. Yet I know that the dark of the night is only the prelude to the beginning of a new day and the turn of warmth and brightness.
Success quotes for overcoming fear
This site deals with setting high expectations for other
family members that may be difficult to measure up to.
Daily Word for Healing Blessing Your Life with Messages of Hope and Renewal by Colleen Zuck, Janie Wright and Elaine Meyer,Copyright 2000 by Unity School of Christianity, publisher of Daily Word Series